The following question is posed to me from time to time:
‘I’ve decluttered my own things, but my partner/husband/parents won’t. What’s the best way to declutter their stuff?’
There’s a quick, simple and easy answer to this.
Just – don’t.
It’s their stuff. If they don’t want to declutter or don’t have any minimalist leanings themselves, that’s fine.
I know it’s not easy. If you feel minimalism has helped you, it’s natural to want to pass it on. But it’s not as simple as that.
I’m a real case in point. If you came into my house, you wouldn’t fall backwards crying ‘well, obviously a minimalist lives here’. Mr. Minimal-Lol does not share my minimalist tendencies. ‘Help me declutter’, he never says, as he crams another shirt into his overflowing wardrobe!
He’s not a hoarder – more of a clutter bug. Of course, it can drive me up the wall sometimes but at the end of the day, it’s his stuff and I don’t go near it – and that includes items in our shared spaces. Joint items – joint decision.
Now, ‘hero’ is not a word I use very often – and I won’t be using it today either!
But Mr. M-L does his best. He sometimes gets inspired, de-clutters a couple of shirts and feels very pleased with himself. And that’s fine.
The simplest thing is to apply the golden rule – treat others as you would wish to be treated yourself – no matter how tempting it is to do otherwise!!
Have a great week 😊